The Triangle Care Group
Testimony from Mark Darbey
The first time I met Dave & Ian, I was working in a large high school in Manchester
as a coordinator for ethnic minority achievement.
Some of the pupils were having
running battles, with groupings split firmly along ethnic lines, and the school had
brought them in to try to stem the escalating violence. The techniques they used were
eclectic but effective.
The incidents of fights between different racial groups dropped to zero.
I remember working with them to try to get a picture of how they could get such
difficult pupils to listen to them so attentively. In one session I observed they had
gathered around fifty ofthe school's most 'disaffected' pupils in a seminar in the hall.
The session lasted two hours. There were no incidents of poor behaviour. Not one.
This taught me that the disaffection was something that the students were given; not
something intrinsic to them.
The work at that time was much more than simple talking therapy though. Dave & Ian
had developed a series of structured and cogent curriculae to shape the experiences of
the students they were working with. I was fortunate to be able to borrow many useful
ideas that serve me still.
Since I last worked closely with them, Dave & Ian have gone on to work with
Probation Service clients and I know from accounts given that the same effectiveness
has been evidenced in that work.
For working with "hard to reach" (not a term I like) clients there aren't better. Using a
crafty mix of spirituality and school-of-life wisdom they are able to get to the core of
issues faced by troubled clients in a way that no other practitioners or services I have
I cannot recommend them highly enough.
Regards and best wishes, Mark Darbey
Senior District Coordinator
Diversity & Inclusion Team
Manchester Children's Services
Testimony from Yasir Nawaz
My names is Yasir Nawaz, I was a student at Burnage High school, between 1997 and 2002. When I
started I mixed with bad company and social groups, and had problems dealing with authority at
school, this resulted in me getting into trouble and fighting with other pupils and arguing with
teachers all the time, not turning up to school had become the norm.
During this time I met up with a group of mentors, whose names are Dave Gregory, and lan Calder,
who where my mentors. I felt I could speak to lan and Dave regarding problems I was facing in and
out of school, things I could never have felt comfortable talking to my teachers about.
Eventually, the inevitable happened and I was put in prison for fighting, I thought that I would never
finish school and would be in prison forever! At this time I felt very depressed and scared
In time, In prison I visited by lan and Dave who assured me everything would be ok and also
arranged for me to do course work do so I wouldn't get behind on school. There visits always made
me feel good and confident that things would be ok.
Once out of prison again they helped me to get back in to School and made sure I finished my
G.C.S.E'S, I am now working at Micro Direct Ltd as a Sales Representative selling and communicating
with the public every day.
I would never have achieved this without the help of my mentors, lan Calder and Dave Gregory they
have changed my life. And for that I would like to say thank you.
Kind Regards, Yasir Nawaz
Sales Representative, Micro Direct Ltd
Testimony from Roxanne Adams
I was introduced to lan and Dave when I attended Cedar Mount High School and was in my 3rd year of school. They were our mentors and would come in school every week and do a full day session with us. There was around 8-10 of us in 3rd year and up that were chosen to take part.
During these sessions we would discuss all kinds' problems and difficulties we had at school, at home, on the streets and about life in general and lan and Dave would offer guidance and support in anyway shape or form possible.
lan and Dave stopped coming to do sessions with our group 3 months after they started. This was a big disappointment for myself and those who attended the sessions and after they had made such big difference within the little time they did visit us at school,
It made a really big difference that we no longer had that guidance to turn to when they stopped visiting. As lan and Dave seemed to be the only ones that did believe in us and tried to give us a wider viewpoint when dealing with the everyday problems that we faced, encouraged us to succeed and try harder in everything we do and helped us identify our strengths and weaknesses.
I was 14 when I meet lan and Dave and am now 19 and have achieved more than I and the majority of people around me ever thought I could through the guidance I have received and do still turn to lan and Dave for advice as they really do care and see the potential in us young people that teachers, our neighbourhoods, the public, the police and government do not see. The reality of the huge impact lan and Dave could have on our communities amongst the young and old, men and women given they had the opportunity and funding needs to be addressed as this could make a crucial and positive difference to the gang, drug, gun, knife and JOBLESS culture we are dealing with today. The difference they have made and could make is and would
Testimony of Roxanne Adams, PA for Morland & Jarvis Financial Advisory Service, Age 19
Testimony from Aaron Ankrah
I met lan Calder in May of 2004, at the age of 18 in the Mary Seacole Centre on Talbot Road in Old Trafford, where he and Dave Gregory were delivering a Mentoring session. At this point of
my life I was searching for answers in the streets of South Manchester.
Being from a mixed race background I did not no were I belonged and was brought up with both sides of my identity suppressed by both sides of my family which presented me with an social identity crisis.
Unfortunately, I was around a lot of negative people who were leading me down a dark path.
Some of these people were trying to involve me in very serious criminal activity by fuelling my
anger against society and my own family members.
I was grown with a belief system that I was un intelligent and due to the surrounding social
issues and my experience in school life this was inbred in me. I was brought up to believe, like I
was told, that I was not bright and was going to end up another street thug and a statistic (just
another street thug).
After loosing my Nana, who at that point in my life I believed was the only one who loved me,
for me I had died and watching my so called friends struggle to survive after someone being
murdered or going to jail, I blamed the world and went into self destruct mode.
lan began by helping me with the tools to start being able to look at myself and looking at the
consequences of my own actions. I was also handed the tool to put in my tool box, to mend
bridges with my parents and to start to be able to break down the assumption based on lies
which I was living my life on.
I started questioning my own thoughts in a constructive and positive way and with the support
from lan started building my own belief system, cutting the nonsense and making sense out of
my own thoughts and not what I had been convinced to believe
lan also used Jikiden Reiki to release the anger inside of me. After this experience and starting to believe in myself I went from smoking a large amount of cannabis, which I had been doing from twelve years old, to cutting it out of my life completely and breaking down the ghetto mentality inbred in me of passing blame and responsibilities on to others.
I was given the tool by lan to find the most important gift in my life, SELF BELIEF.
Since meeting lan I have began using my life experiences to make people like myself aware of
there actions and the consequences that affect not only themselves, but the rest of society. lan
showed me how to do this and how to reflect on my own thoughts and actions and by doing this
enabled me to build a career in Mentoring.
I was given the gift to learn how to love myself and how to reason my thoughts. Being given this
gift from lan, myself and my family have grown closer together and I have taken responsibility
for my two children which I know within myself if I had not have met lan I would not be caring
for my children or working to try to make myself and other responsible for there own actions
and teach them how to learn for themselves and offer the support they need.
I have also learnt from lan that life is not about what it looks like to other people and it should
be doing what your supposed to do for the best and to stop training ourselves to be good
slaves to the people around us, following my own dreams and encouraging people to do the
The difference between the ways other people tried to talk to me and show me things was that they talked from their own personal experience, from what they believed was right and wrong. lan didn't do this he told me about what was right for me, he spoke to me like a brother or father would with the care and support without judging what I was saying and did his best to
Enough appreciation and thanks from me and my family and kids and for helping me wake up and see what was important on the new journey that you have put me on
Testimony of Aaron Ankrah, Mentor for Egerton High School, Manchester, Age 22
Testimony from Martin Parson
My Name is Martin Parsons. I am a social worker based in Tameside. I work on the Through care Team. I have 25 years’ experience in working with children and families.
I had the great pleasure of working with Triangle care these past few years. I placed a extremely vulnerable and challenging young man (BW) in their care. He was presenting with criminal offending and physically / verbally challenging behaviour. Unfortunately he had exhausted all other placements and we were struggling to secure appropriate accommodation given this behaviour.
To their credit they managed to empower BW and help him address his emotional needs and assisted him in improving his life chances and future opportunities. They quickly managed to stop BW from continuing his criminal behaviour and encouraged him in attending a local college / training provider.
Finally at 18 years BW was in a position to move onto his own tenancy with the continued support of Triangle care.
It is vital that to effect change and help young people sustain change that they feel supported and healthy relationships with their carers. To Triangle cares credit Dave and Ian are excellent advocates and have a natural ability to mentor and help young people achieve their full potential.
Testimony from Sue Eacott
Describe the young person in three words prior to coming to Triangle Care Group:
Unstable, withdrawn, serious cause for concern
Describe the young person in three words after being with Triangle Care Group:
Stable, open and enthusiastic
What makes Triangle Care Group different from other providers?
Triangle Care has a good insight to the needs of the young person and has provided the appropriate care for his needs. Communication between Triangle Care and professionals involved has been exemplary with regular updates and attendance at meetings.
Would you recommend Triangle Care Group to other agencies? Why?
I would have no hesitation of recommending Triangle Care to other agencies as I have found them to be professional with in-depth knowledge of services, supportive of service users and, above all, approachable and cooperative.
Name: Sue Eacott
Agency: Cumbria Children’s Services
Date: Nov 2015